Unforgiveness ; people say its letting someone live freely in your head without rent. That doesn’t really cut if for me, its also said that its like cutting yourself and expecting someone else to get hurt, ok that’s quite closer to the reality, but in plain terms I think its allowing someone hurt you over and over again for an action committed in the past (of course I said in ‘plain’ terms).
Being alive unavoidably means being around people, (except you are a ‘Robinson Crusoe’ ), and it also means having to interact with them, and because the HUMAN is flawed (yes the natural man is flawed), their flawed state results in flawed reasoning, and ultimately flawed actions, and then those flawed actions might offend us, and that is where we get hurt. It becomes an issue however, when we CHOOSE to remain in that state of hurt, and blame the people who have hurt us for our inability to get out of that box of unforgiveness.
Quick example, for some of us who live in houses where the ‘mosquito’ is a dreaded enemy, is it possible for us to be angry at a mosquito for giving us a sleepless night? That’s because despite that we are UNHAPPY with the mosquito, we just MOVE on, we don’t we moan through out the day and quarrel with every mosquito in sight? We don’t channel an incredible amount of mental energy to recreate the event the exact way it happened, taking note of how many times the mosquito “patrolled’ around our ears, and all other things that come with a ‘mosquito onslaught’. Yet we remember more insignificant details of the ‘hurt’ and we recreate the scene all over again.
It’s the nature of the mosquito to ‘feast’ on your blood, and what you do is to swat at it, or itch when you’ve been ‘feasted on’ (no offence please, mosquitoes where I live ‘feast’). So, it’s the nature of that person sitting next to you to take flawed decisions that might hurt you, so swat at it (not at the person), and move on, instead of complaining to Chukwuma Ciroma Adekunle, (who has been writing WAEC every year). No matter what that person did to you, just move on! So to forgive is as easy as ‘SAM’ (Swat And Move)!
I also understand that somethings are difficult to ‘get over’ especially if it came from someone who we trusted so much, but the truth is not forgiving them doesn’t affect them anymore than the way the lack of power of supply in my house now affects the penguins in Antarctica.
Jesus came and brought healing for the broken hearted, and when He said, “it is finished” it also included your hurt, your worries, your pain. I don’t think anyone will ever experience worse hurt than Jesus did, yet He forgave. The bible in Hebrews 4:15 says ‘’For we have not a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weakness…’’. He understands, and He is the best person that can help you let go of ‘hurts ‘that keep us bound.
Get out of the box today! And take someone along! SWAT AND MOVE!