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Unforgiveness ; people say its letting someone live freely in your head without rent.  That doesn’t really cut if for me, its also said that its like cutting yourself and expecting  someone else to get hurt, ok that’s quite closer to the reality, but in plain terms  I think its allowing someone hurt you over and over again  for an action committed in the past (of course I said in ‘plain’ terms).  

Being alive unavoidably means being around people, (except you are a ‘Robinson Crusoe’ ), and it also means having to interact with them, and because the HUMAN is flawed (yes the natural man is flawed), their flawed state results in flawed reasoning, and ultimately flawed actions, and then those flawed actions might  offend us, and that is where we get hurt. It becomes an issue however, when we CHOOSE to remain in that state of hurt, and blame the people who have hurt us for our inability to get out of that box of unforgiveness.   

Quick example, for some of us who live in houses where the ‘mosquito’ is a dreaded enemy, is it possible for us to be angry at a mosquito for giving us a sleepless night? That’s because despite that we are UNHAPPY with the mosquito, we just MOVE on, we don’t we moan through out the day and quarrel with every mosquito in sight? We don’t channel an incredible amount of mental energy to recreate the event the exact way it happened, taking note of how many times the mosquito “patrolled’ around our ears, and all other things that come with a ‘mosquito onslaught’. Yet we remember more insignificant details of the ‘hurt’ and we recreate the scene all over again.

 It’s the nature of the mosquito to ‘feast’ on your blood, and what you do is to swat at it, or itch when you’ve been ‘feasted on’ (no offence please, mosquitoes where I live ‘feast’).  So, it’s the nature of that person sitting next to you to take flawed decisions that might hurt you, so swat at it (not at the person), and move on, instead of complaining to Chukwuma  Ciroma Adekunle, (who has been writing WAEC every year). No matter what that person did to you, just move on! So to forgive is as easy as ‘SAM’ (Swat And  Move)!

I also understand that somethings are difficult to ‘get over’ especially if it came from someone who we trusted so much, but the truth is not forgiving them doesn’t affect them anymore than the way the lack of power of supply in my house now affects the penguins in Antarctica.

Jesus came and brought healing for the broken hearted, and when He said, “it is finished” it also included your hurt, your worries, your pain. I don’t think anyone will ever experience worse hurt than Jesus did, yet He forgave.  The bible in Hebrews  4:15 says ‘’For we have not a high priest who is unable to sympathize  with our weakness…’’. He understands, and He is the best person that can help you let go of ‘hurts ‘that keep us bound.

Get out of the box today! And take someone along! SWAT AND MOVE!    

Unforgiveness ;

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Posted by on May 13, 2013 in Uncategorized


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“Out of the Box’’ is a vision inspired by God to help His children realize that they are free; free from evil thought patterns, and wrong notions that make them conform to the flawed ‘system’ of the world, and which ultimately prevents them from experiencing the wonderful life God has in store for them.

They are free because Jesus has overcome the world. He overcame the system that threatens to pull us under, he overcame the tsunami of sin…our sin, not His, and then handed us the victory to live above it, and He set us free long before we were physically born. The ‘gates’ have been lifted up, the chains have been broken…WE ARE FREE. Sadly, many people are sitting in that dark cold prison staring at the open gates but failing to realize that we have been set free. 

Every day we spend on this earth things happen to us that ‘shape’ our personality, we are either shaped by the ‘world’, or we allow the master builder to build us  [Isa 64:8 But now, O LORD, You are our Father; We are the clay, and You our potter; And all we are the work of Your hand. (NKJV)]

So many things have nailed people to the ground, and they have been ‘robbed’ of the ‘Riches’ of the liberty God has given to us through Jesus Christ [John 10:10 ‘The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.’(NKJV)]And enjoy the incredibly amazing pleasure (yup PLEASURE!!! Not the fleeting kind, but the one that lasts forevermore!)  Ps 16:11 ‘You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore’.

Notions and thoughts that limit us can only be overcome by superior thoughts, and the best kind of thought is to think in line with the kind that God thinks…thoughts of good… [Jer 29:11-12 ‘’for I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.’’]

The issue of the mind is so important that even Jesus made this explicit Mark 7:20-23

20 And He said, “What comes out of a man that defiles a man.  21 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness.  23 All these evil things come from within and defile a man.”

These things will only come out of a man if they have found root in his mind therefore the need to transform our minds to disallow worldly conformity [James 4:4-5

4 Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. 5 Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain, “The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously”?]. Strong words, but true nonetheless.

 Rom [12:1-2 ‘And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice — the kind he will accept. When you think of what he has done for you, is this too much to ask?  Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is. (NLT)]

Get out of whatever box it is….and take someone along!Image

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